What made you decide to document your hair transition on Instagram, and have the reactions been as you expected? One day, once I had started growing out the grey, I took a mirror selfie and toyed with the idea of posting it… it felt terrifying like I was about to unleash my shame upon the world. It seems silly to think of now as I am so confident sharing my hair but back then it was terrifying. But I had this nagging thought that if I post this photo, someone else might gain a little courage to be truly themselves – whether that’s growing out their greys or going against the grain in some other way. I hope my confidence and openness makes others feel the same in a society that is constantly trying to shame us!
What has been the reaction from your hairdresser when you decided to grow out your greys? In South East Asia, where I live, the trend is definitely for women to look very young, so when I started teasing hairdressers saying I would grow it out they were horrified. That shook my confidence a little when I was considering it. I visited a salon to see if they would blend it out as I’d seen some incredible blend jobs on Instagram, but was ultimately told it would need an expert as the colour pattern is complicated, and my dyed hair so dark. Now I’m glad I am transitioning it this way, I love seeing the way it grows. In a couple of months I think I’ll cut it to a sharp bob, and I’m excited to experiment with pastel tones when the white is fully grown out!
What would you say to someone who is considering ditching the dye? It’s easy to say ‘just do it!’ but I understand everyone’s journey is different. When you’re ready, you’ll know. It is as much about self confidence and acceptance as it is the hair. I’ve had lots of women message me privately sharing their transitions who aren’t quite ready to share it with the world – little by little your confidence will grow, and the love you have for yourself will outweigh anything negative you perceive.